Football and the folly of the gay debate.

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*I first posted the following blog in the spring of 2012, ironically, the same year that footballer Andre Gray posted the homophobic tweets which recently saw him spread across the sports pages.

You would hope that things would have changed in recent years but as we have seen with the Greg Clarke article that’s splashed across the media morning, that is far from the case.

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As you may or may not know, Downing Street will today play host to a summit which will discuss, amongst other things, the issues of racism and homophobia.

Leaving aside the simple truth that I actually think our PM has more important things to be doing at the moment, the reason this summit is taking place is apparently to take a fresh look at both ‘problems’ in the face of recent events and, in the case of homophobia, in the wake of the BBC documentary which looked at the lack of any openly gay players in the professional game.

Now my views on racism at football are in black and white for all to see, be that on this very blog or in my book Kicking Off. Homophobia however, is something I have never really discussed before and there is a reason for that.

You see speaking as a football fan, it is my assertion that there isn’t actually a problem to address at the moment and nor will there be until such time as we have a player with the bottle to actually come out and admit to his sexuality. At that point things will change immediately because then the anti-homophobia campaign will have an actual focal point or to be blunt, a potential victim. As a result, then, and only then, will we know if we actually have a problem at all. Because at the moment, it is all supposition.

That is I know, a very simplistic way of looking at things but let’s face it, once inside the confines of a ground, football fans become fairly simplistic beings. All too often the concept of right and wrong is neutralised by raw emotion but as we saw with racism, when people eventually began to realise how futile and pathetic it was, it soon became so ingrained in their psyche that to even utter a racist term stopped occurring to all but the most rabid of morons. Indeed, far from knocking football for being racist we should be applauding it for driving the anti-racism message deep into the heart of British society.

I believe that exactly the same thing will happen with homophobia and I would argue, it will happen in a fairly short space of time if not immediately. After all, one only has to look at the TV to see how much has changed with regard to British societies acceptance of homosexuality in recent years.

Yet as the noises being made ahead of this summit clearly seem to prove, both the game and the authorities would like the great British public to believe that the second an openly gay player steps onto a field, the terraces will resound with cries of ‘they don’t like it up ‘em’ or ‘I’m free’ and the sight of fans mincing up and down behind the goals. Indeed the reason I sat down and wrote this very blog is because I have been so offended by some of the things I have been hearing this morning. How dare they accuse us, as citizens never mind supporters, of thinking like that!

The question of course, is why they are inferring such things and the answer, like most things to do with the great game, is fairly obvious. It’s a basic diversion tactic. Because if you point the finger of blame toward the fans, you don’t actually have to apportion any blame to yourselves.

Like it or not, if you are a pro-footballer be it at Old Trafford or Roots Hall, the nature of the beast is such that getting abuse from the terrace is going to be part and parcel of your career. Brutal though this might be, it is a fact and if you don’t like it or don’t think you will be able to take it, don’t do it. It really is as simple as that.

The key to dealing with that abuse is to understand why it happens and what it actually means because for the most part, it will only be coming at you from opposing fans who you are pissing off by doing a good job. And as long as you’re doing a good job, as recent history has proven only too well, your own supporters will not only forgive you anything but they will continue to heap adulation on you. Since they are the ones who ultimately pay your wages, they’re the only ones you really have to worry about.

However, if that grief comes not from the terraces but from your peers, especially your own team mates, it is something else entirely because it goes beyond banter from the crowd, it becomes personal. Anyone who has even been in a changing room knows that many of them are like a scene from Animal Farm (the George Orwell book, not the porn movie!) and anyone who shows even the remotest sign of being in any way different becomes fair game. Remember the stick Graham Le Saux used to get simply because he has a brain in his head? Much of that focussed on his supposed sexuality and let’s face it, if you were gay and saw that as a potential warning of things to come, why on earth would you want to put yourself at risk?

Of course not all players are like that and I’m sure that there are certain changing rooms which are delightful places to be post-training. But there are plenty which aren’t, especially if you’re not one of the towel-snapping, prank playing, tart shagging brigade and it is that ‘closed shop’ lad mentality which David Cameron and the various cronies and cling-ons should be discussing not the old chestnut of fears of abuse from the terraces.

But that will only happen when the game actually admits it has a problem in-house and we all know how reluctant it is to do that.

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3 thoughts on “Football and the folly of the gay debate.”

  1. http://justaballgame.blogspot.com/2011/05/media-release-were-not-homophobic.html
    Please take time to read this media release from last May, and look through my other blog posts, inlcuding a survey i ran on homophobia in sport a couple of months ago.
    Homophobia is a problem in football and other sports as it it STILL in society as a whole. You may think that the apperance on TV or in the Film industry or in Music means the problems have been erased here , they have not, some are out and proud many are not as strong.
    On the football front, quite right it is not all down to the fans, everyone should be dealing with the issues but they are not, this what is needed from football though, messages and the right ones have to come from the very top and be genuine.
    FOOTBALL IS NOT EXCLUSIVE FOOTBALL IS FOR ALL.

  2. http://justaballgame.blogspot.com/2011/05/media-release-were-not-homophobic.html
    Please take time to read this media release from last May, and look through my other blog posts, inlcuding a survey i ran on homophobia in sport a couple of months ago.
    Homophobia is a problem in football and other sports as it it STILL in society as a whole. You may think that the apperance on TV or in the Film industry or in Music means the problems have been erased here , they have not, some are out and proud many are not as strong.
    On the football front, quite right it is not all down to the fans, everyone should be dealing with the issues but they are not, this what is needed from football though, messages and the right ones have to come from the very top and be genuine.
    FOOTBALL IS NOT EXCLUSIVE FOOTBALL IS FOR ALL.

  3. Football is not exclusive at all, it is inclusive, that’s the whole point.

    And I am well aware that homophobia, like racism and sexism and all kinds of other prejudices are still present in society. However, the point of the blog was to not to belittle the very real fears faced by those who have yet to come out, but to highlight the fact that no one can deal with those fears or indeed the issue of homophobia generally until someone is brave enough to step into the firing line. Footballs record of confronting racism provides a perfect example of that simple truth.

    Just as importantly, in my opinion the biggest problem with homophobia in football lies not on the terraces, but in the changing rooms and the offices of agents.

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